So you’re in love. You’ve met someone. You’ve dated for a while…

Now you're wondering — "Am I ready for marriage?"

In Kenya, many rush into marriage because of: Age pressure, Pregnancy, Religion, Family expectations.

But real marriage readiness goes deeper than just feelings or time.

This article breaks down how to know you’re truly ready to marry — spiritually, emotionally, and financially.

1. You Love Them Beyond Romance

Love is more than butterflies.

You’re ready if you admire their values, not just their looks. You’re proud of their growth. You’d still stand by them even during joblessness or sickness.

"Ndoa si love songs pekee – ni kubeba mzigo pamoja."

2. You Know Each Other’s Flaws – and Accept Them

Nobody is perfect. The question is — can you handle their imperfections?

You’re ready if you’ve seen their temper, struggles, trauma. You don’t just tolerate, but support their healing. You’ve had disagreements — and resolved them.

Marriage isn’t about finding the perfect person — it’s about choosing someone to grow with.

3. You Communicate Honestly — Even About Tough Stuff

Can you tell them you’re hurt without a fight?

Can you disagree without walking away?

You’re ready if you’re not afraid to speak your truth. You listen, not just respond.

You talk about intimacy, money, boundaries, and future plans

4. You’re Spiritually Aligned

If you’re a believer, faith is a foundation — not decoration.

You’re ready if you share similar spiritual values (e.g., prayer, church, purpose).

You’ve prayed over your relationship.

You see marriage as a calling, not just a social contract.

A couple that prays together builds deeper trust and purpose.

5. You Have a Basic Financial Plan

Marriage without a plan = stress.

You don’t have to be rich, but you need a strategy.

You’re ready if you’ve discussed rent, budgeting, jobs, businesses, children's expenses.

6. You’re Emotionally Independent

Don’t marry to fill a void.

You’re ready if you’re not afraid of being alone. You’ve healed from past traumas or toxic exes.

You’re not using your partner to escape loneliness

Wholeness + wholeness = strong marriage. Broken + broken = disaster.

7. You’ve Involved Mentors or Family

Marriage is not a secret affair.

You’re ready if trusted people (family, spiritual leaders, mentors) know and support your relationship.

You’ve seen each other’s families and background.

You’ve had serious premarital conversations (or counseling).

Bonus: Signs You’re NOT Ready Yet

You’re getting married because of pressure, not purpose.

You fight weekly, and one partner always threatens to leave.

You can’t talk about intimacy, finances, or faith honestly.

You’re hiding parts of your life from your partner

You feel unsure, anxious, or trapped.

Final Thoughts

Marriage is beautiful — but only when entered with readiness and wisdom.

It’s not a trophy. It’s not a trend. It’s a journey of two flawed people building something eternal.

Before you say "I do", ask:

"Do I really, truly understand what I’m choosing — and am I willing to choose it daily?"

Share this article with someone preparing for marriage or currently dating seriously.

Let’s build strong homes — not just flashy weddings.